A girl at church has caught my eye, and if I’m honest I quite fancy her. The problem is that I’m no oil painting and there is no way in the world that she would be interested in someone like me. Despite this hurdle, one day I became deluded and casually asked her for her e-mail address, believing that she liked me enough to just be friends without any kind of physical contact. After a couple of months of her telling me that she ‘couldn’t remember’ her e-mail address offhand, I found it in her purse and started bombarding her with messages. They weren’t sordid, rude or confrontational – just general chit-chat about day-to-day stuff like despair, paranoia and solitude. I know that she still checks her e-mails as friends have told me that she usually mails them every week, but she never replies to mine and I’m quite troubled by this. What should I do?
Mark Smith, Hoddesdon
Maybe you came on too strong? Girls can smell desperation and quite frankly, they don’t like it. If I were you I’d just retreat while you still have some dignity.